Separating from your spouse or partner can be a stressing time for you and your children.  However, taking legal advice can make this process easier to understand and navigate.

Our specialist Family Law solicitor, Deepa Sidhu shares her top tips when thinking about a divorce.

Decide what you want
This may sound obvious but it is not always easy to make the decision that you want a divorce. Whilst solicitors can advise you on all the legal implications they cannot make the decision to end your marriage for you. A Counsellor will help you come to that decision. When you have decided your Family Law expert will be there to deal with the legal consequences.

Explore all your options
When you are considering a divorce it’s important that you should know what all your options are and how they will affect you and your family. Having a reputable solicitor who specialises in Family Law, is key to give you that advice.

Do what your Lawyer asks you to do
A reputable solicitor will try to keep your costs as low as possible, so providing information or documents promptly will assist the speed of the process. This means that your solicitor will not have to send off for information or documents which may increase your costs.

Look at your finances
Now is a good time to review your financial position. Establish what assets you have in your name, what assets are joint and try to remember what your spouse’s assets are. The more information you can give your solicitor the better. By having this information to hand can help to reduce the time spent establishing the financial facts, which will result in lower legal fees.

Always act in your children’s best interests
Even though the breakdown of your relationship is painful, don’t use your children as weapons to hurt your spouse. Remember it is not their fault and they are suffering too. Try not to have heated arguments in front of them and avoid being disrespectful about your spouse in front of them, remember it is still their mum or dad!

Look after yourself
As this is an extremely stressful time it’s important to look after your emotional as well as your physical health. See your GP and continue with your Counsellor to help you get through this time.

Every divorce is different
Whilst friends and family may have been through a divorce, remember all divorces and financial settlements are different. Talk to your solicitor who will advise to suit your individual circumstances and to give you the best possible outcome.

Take precautions!
Protect your assets should anything happen to you before your divorce and financial settlement is concluded. This includes making a Will or a new Will, severing the joint tenancy in respect of any jointly owned properties, change your nominated pension beneficiary in respect of your pension and ensure that the overdraft on any joint account is either removed or capped.

And for the future…
Before you enter into another relationship consider entering into a Cohabitation Agreement if you are going to live together or a Pre- Nuptial Agreement if you are going to get remarried.


Deepa Sidhu

Deepa is our Family Law expert, with clear and concise advice, Deepa can help on all matters arising within Family Law.  Call Deepa now on 020 7379 7277 or email

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